Imagine that you are walking into the movie complex, where every movie is about you. You are the main star but directors are people which spend time with you. On the first silver screen you watch a movie which is directed by your mother, after 10 minutes you live a room wondering about what she is talking. On the second screen there is a movie directed by your brother, on the third one by your partner, on fourth by your boss. You go in and out without believing to your eyes.
Each one of these movies is about you, but your presentation and decisions are looked from another perspective. You can understand why your friend is angry at you, why you got fired on the last job and why your partner loves you so much. That another perspective gives you the motivation to think about your relationship with others.
Looking things only from our perspective can leave us blind to emotions of others. Spare 15 minutes per week thinking about others and your social life will be much better. Everyone is living life as complex as yours, so blaming someone for bad decisions and not knowing why did they make them is like blaming a fish because she doesn’t know how to fly.
Feeling that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness is called “Sonder”. I like to experience this by looking busy street in my town. Sitting on the bench and thinking about lifes of others, giving stories behind their fast walking. Giving a reason for their smile or tears is like giving souls to empty faces.
That women running across the street provoking every driver in a car to horn is probably late for her job or she has an ill child at home without anyone to care about it. There are millions of reasons why she is doing such a mindless move and you don’t know any of them.
This a little bit weird hobby gives me so much fun so I strongly suggest that you spend some time with that in mind. If you find some inspiration it can be relaxing and satisfying at the same time. On the end don’t forget everyone is a star in their own movie and everyone sees us from their.